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You say Gym. I say Couch Potato. Let's call the whole thing off!
Resolving Inner Conflict Clients literally trip themselves up on the way to the gym and their weight loss goals. Definition of Incongruence
When a client has made a decision to lead a healthier lifestyle and commit to your programme, but when it came time to follow through they let themselves down and revert to their regular unhealthy habit. Your client will feel the instinctive tug of misalignment. In NLP this state of misalignment resulting in a behaviour that doesn’t fit with what the client professes to want is called ‘incongruence Identifying Inner Conflict
1) Simultaneous Incongruity
Torn between two options, indecisive
What you might hear : language and phrases; on the one hand, on the other hand; one part of me wants to, I am in two minds about this
For yourselves, be aware the self talk that goes with it - ‘treadmill’ v. ‘pizza’
What you might see :Analogue Marking, that is movements of the body that reflect the workings of the unconscious mind
2) Sequential Incongruity
At a complete loss to explain behaviour on occasion. For example where somebody has eaten healthily for months and stuck with the programme and then goes on a serious binge. Such inconsistency makes it difficult for them to focus on their weight loss goal for long enough for their efforts to make a real difference. They are frustrated as they feel ‘somebody else takes over’,
What you might hear: phrases like ‘I wasn’t myself’.
What you might see: Analogue Marking Movements of the body that reflect the workings of the unconscious mind
How we create conflict within ourselves
Resolving Inner Conflict
All Human Behaviour has a Positive Intention
Whatever we do, however we behave, there is always a positive intention behind our behaviour. Even when we are conflicted, the intention behind our sometimes very different behaviours is in fact the same, and that it is in this recognition that resolution is achieved. Parts Integration
The first enables you to recognise that whilst the behaviours are very different the positive intention behind wanting to go to the gym and wanting to stay at home in front of the TV are the same. It is this recognition that ultimately resolves the conflict Alignment Therapy
The second techniques allows you to create a dialogue between your adult self who wants to move forward and a younger self who seeks to sabotage the adult’s plans. Resolution of the self-sabotage pattern is achieved when the adult acknowledges and welcomes the younger part. Being Slim is hard to achieve when our Being is fragmented; that it can only become our reality when we become whole.
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This intel was contributed by Pam Rigden
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May, 2012
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